I Finally Get It Mom!
So it’s Mother’s Day once again. To me it wasn’t always a day of much significance. Growing up, I had a love hate relationship with my mum. She could be my best friend and my worst nightmare. Anything I did or didn’t do got me into trouble, or so I thought. However, over the years, I began to listen to her side of the story and that changed everything. Unlike me, my mum was brought up by her grandparents. In them she found, both a mother and a father. She didn’t or couldn’t make the choices that I can today, so she did her best.
She decided long ago that if she were to have a daughter, she would make sure, to give her all the attention and love a mother could give. I am that lucky girl. It wasn’t until I was in my late teens that I developed a friendship with her. She listened to all my troubles and tribulations. Consoled me through heartbreaks and triumphs, cried with me, laughed with me.
Not all of us are fortunate to have had ideal childhoods. Some of us have a mother and a father, others come from single parent homes and many don’t have either. Whether we were raised by biological mothers or not, its important to know how a mother makes us feel. No matter how many times, I’d promise myself I’d never turn out to be like my mum, I’ve learnt that she simply brought out the best of herself in me. She simply let me be. She let me live, explore and find out for myself who I really am. I’ve learnt to accept her with all her flaws and attributes. After all she is a person too. It maybe hard to believe, but as a child she was more of a ‘mom’ than a human being. Things just appeared out of nowhere; food, lunches, bandages, hugs, birthday parties and all the uncountable mundane events. All courtesy of mom.
Although a mother is someone who gives us life and raises us, even Wikipedia, finds it “challenging” to define a mother. No matter who raised us, its important to recognize how much of themselves they put into it. It’s the effort they made, the love they shared, the hurdles they crossed just for us. Women are natural nurturers, they love, listen and care, almost intrinsically. We have all at some point in our lives come across or known people, who give of themselves so selflessly and lovingly that it makes even naysayers, believers of love. Mother Theresa was such a lady, she lived her life for others, so that they could know true love in this lifetime.
We may send flowers and gifts to our Mothers on this special day but over the years I’ve learnt that no amount of presents can account for even an ounce of a mother’s love. It’s just no match. Like nature gives to us, all the world for the taking, a mother gives us her heart. Over the course of our lives we may break it many times, but it always seems to be there, just when we need it the most. Let this day be a reminder, not just an event. It’s a day about love and that special bond between a mother and child. We can find it all around us, especially in nature, the primal force that drives this bond. Even animals have mothers, its the most important and natural relationship there is.
So I finally get it, after all these years, that Mothers were meant to be just the way they are. There is no perfect mother, there is only pure love and thats the message moms bring into this world. So I thank you mum for being who you are and without you I wouldn’t be half the woman that I am today.
Mums are the reason all heart-broken girl teenagers get past their heart break, and mums Always have time for their children. Mums rock! Great article, really true.
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